Let's just assume that it matters what you think. I shouldn't have to be the one to tell you that. If you're unable to recognize your own value, then how do you expect others to do it for you?
Seriously, the very first step takes confidence, without it there, the rest just collapses into repeating cycles. You have to be ready to fight, this isn't easy, you can't fight, but you must be ready to fight. It's there on the cusp of that transition that everything flourishes, but first you must get there mentally.